Breakups are tough.. I get it. When you feel a strong connection with someone and see a future it can be devastating when things don’t work out the way you had hoped.
If you’ve recently ended a relationship, it’s totally normal to feel a flood of emotions and not sure where to turn or what to do but I’m here for you. There’s no easy quick fix to feeling better, but, this can also be a great time to take a step back and give yourself and your life a reset to feel happy and fulfilled again.
While there is no magic answer, here is a brief guide to help you on your path to healing and personal growth with time, self-care, and support.
Give Yourself Time to Grieve
First things first: it’s normal to feel like a double-decker bus has just crashed into you. Be kind to yourself; breakups can be quite painful. It’s normal to go through the cycle of grief and feel a range of emotions — sadness, anger, denial, relief, loneliness, or disappointment.
Give yourself permission to work through these emotions in healthy ways, such as talking to a supportive friend or family member, journaling, or engaging in creative outlets like art or music.
Speak to Your Friends
While time alone to work through your feeling is important, maintaining contact with your friends during this period is also incredibly important. Your closest friends can provide a sympathetic ear and emotional support, so reach out to them. They might even be able to share their breakup stories with you, making you feel less isolated in your struggles.
A significant step toward healing can be being open with your support network and allowing them to see you at your most vulnerable. Letting down your guard may feel daunting, but by doing so, you’re allowing yourself to feel and handle your emotions healthily.
Cut the Digital Ties
This sounds drastic, but it’s time to go on a digital detox from your ex. Seeing their posts and updates on social media is like pouring salt into your wounds. So, hit that unfollow button, delete those text messages, and stash those photographs away. This digital detox will help you create space for personal growth and for healing.
Rediscover Your Own Passions
When you’re in a relationship, it’s all too easy to lose yourself in the shared interests of you and your partner. Now is the perfect time to reconnect with the things that make you happy. Dust off your dancing shoes or dig out that paintbrush – whatever floats your boat!
Reconnecting with your interests or exploring new hobbies is essential for rediscovering who you are in this new phase of life. It can actually be really liberating and freeing exploring new sides or interests of yourself. Use this time to engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Whether it’s cooking, doing yoga, dancing, or something else, focus on nurturing yourself and rekindling your own happiness is an absolute must.
Give Your Space a Refresh
Sometimes, the physical space around you can hold memories and emotions that you’d rather not dwell on. A breakup is a perfect excuse to spruce up your living space. Rearrange your furniture, buy some new plants, or even create a shrine to yourself – you’re fabulous! Creating a new environment can work wonders in helping you move forward.
Exercise and Get Moving
I know, I know – exercise might be the last thing on your mind right now. But trust us on this one; releasing those endorphins is a brilliant way to lift your mood. Plus, let’s not forget the satisfaction of transforming into a fitter, healthier you. Nothing feels better than the newfound confidence that comes from investing back into yourself – mind, body, and soul. It’s amazing the confidence that comes from looking and feeling good.
Avoid Diving Back into the Dating Pool Too Quickly
It’s tempting to plunge yourself back into the dating scene to demonstrate that you’re “over it.” However, jumping into a new relationship before you’ve had a chance to recover can result in future grief.
Instead, use this time to reflect on who you are and determine what you actually desire in a companion. You’ll re-enter the dating world when you’re ready with a clearer grasp of your wants and a stronger sense of who you are. Keep in mind that wonderful things, including your ideal match, come to those who wait.
Seek Professional Help If Needed
Even though your friends might offer comfort and support after the breakup, seeking professional help may be equally important. Additionally, having a good therapist or working with a coach is vital because they can locate the source of your discomfort, allowing you to understand yourself better while searching for a solution.
Additionally, professional support can help you improve your self-awareness and learn coping mechanisms so you can better handle the emotional turbulence brought on by a breakup. Additionally, it involves fixing your entire self rather than just mending a shattered heart.
Embrace the Single Life
Take advantage of your newfound independence and embrace the perks of being single. Enjoy the freedom to explore your interests without compromise. Indulge in self-care, pursue personal growth, and savor the opportunities for self-discovery. This time is all about you!
Moving past a breakup is a unique journey for everyone. By allowing yourself time to grieve, seeking support, rediscovering your passions, refreshing your environment, engaging in physical activity, avoiding hasty rebounds, seeking professional help if needed, and embracing the single life, you can emerge from this experience stronger and wiser. Remember, there’s a whole world waiting for the fabulous, newly single you to make your mark.
You’ve got this! Remember; there’s a whole world out there for you to create the life you truly desire. Now is the best time to start creating the positive change you wish to see!